Thanks to the expertise of our team, we can provide relationship counseling for a wide variety of issues:

Couples counseling and marriage counseling

It is important to connect regularly with yourself and to connect with other people like with your partner. We recommend that you begin by monitoring how often you connect with yourself and others.

By connecting with others, or the environment, we connect with ourselves. By giving love to our partners, we become better at who we are – who we need to become. Sometimes in relationships, we get caught up with various issues and forget the basics of communicating and loving one another. The counselors at Midwest Counseling will help you to get back on track, deal with issues and re-establish your relationship on a proper footing.

One of the best things you can do for yourself is give to others. Not getting lost in others, not writing a check and feeling good about yourself for the moment, but getting your hands dirty, rolling up your sleeves and getting down to work in helping someone, anyone else. This will transform you in being able to reconnect with others, now. Stop being so self-involved / lost in yourself and find yourself.

Pre-marital counseling

Pre-marital counseling is learning the boundaries of who each of us are individually so that we can be together as "us". There are three people in the relationship; there is you, your partner, and the “us”- the person that you create together. It is not that we have to give up ourselves, or the other person has to give up themselves, it is learning that you can be together by not having to destroy us, or each of ourselves to be together.

Your job is not to agree with everything the person says, but to learn how to communicate with the other person. It is not our disagreements that destroy our unity, but how we deal with each other's emotions. It is how we deal with the emotion that determines our success in our life together. Pre-marital counseling looks at the emotions and helps you to better understand them, and learn to negotiate how to let go of parts of yourself to form “us”.

This type of therapy investigates the many layers in a relationship, and helps you to better understand the complex nature of relationships. Many times we get caught up in the first layer, which tends to be the small things that may bother us about our partner. Through our sessions, we help couples better communicate with each other, and to work out any concerns they might have moving forward.

Our ability to feel relaxed leading up to marriage can be aided by the adoption of a healthy routine, getting plenty of sleep, a healthy diet, enough exercise and through techniques such as meditation that help reduce stress.

The therapists at Midwest Counseling can help you to work on establishing a good routine for yourself.

It can also help to talk to a therapist, because sometimes there can be an underlying reason for our lack of ease with getting married.

LGBTQ counseling

Our inner dialogue is comprised of various parts of the self that may not co-exist harmoniously. If unaddressed, these internal conflicts can significantly compromise authentic self-expression, fulfillment, healthy coping and the quality of interpersonal relationships.

It is difficult to fully appreciate on our own, the degree to which relationships and our desires to please or appear a certain way to others have shaped our inner landscape. One of the main reasons why this is a struggle for so many of us is that we are constantly subject to messages about how we should think, feel, and act, and we may be pressured in various implicit and explicit ways to fit molds dictated by our environments. Those “rules” and “shoulds” about how to be “good” and “successful” often limit genuine self-expression, which then causes emotional distress.

Midwest Counseling's therapists help you safely discover your growth edges so that you can develop more adaptive, effective coping mechanisms for life stressors. We assist clients in making better distinctions between their own true voices and the voices or parts of themselves they’ve internalized from their relationships. Our counseling services facilitate forward momentum, symptom relief, and help our clients form healthier relationships with themselves and with others.

Like any other population, the LGBTQ communities face the gamut of mental health issues including mood disorders and substance abuse but these issues are often compounded with social, religious and cultural biases that exacerbate problems. The LGBTQ communities are important, diverse and vibrant. These communities are strong and offer a rich source of natural resilience and support.

We endeavor to enhance awareness and self-acceptance in our clients with regard to their passions, interpersonal needs, professional goals, familial roles, and peer group dynamics, as well as sexual, gender, ethnic, racial, and spiritual identities.

Our therapists work with LGBTQ clients with an affirmative, respectful, and empowering approach.

Divorce counseling

When couples agree to file for divorce, it can be the start of a long, dark process. We always reiterate to our clients that it can, and will get better. There is a way through this, and we can help to you move on.

The way to get through a divorce is to not get trapped in the process, the legal system, your partner, or in animosity towards them. The danger of going through this process is that you can focus too much on your departing partner, and this will keep you stuck on the pain of losing the person, and not having them with you.

During the divorce we help you to focus more on yourself, and starting your new life so that you can be better, and stronger. We will help you to find a fresher outlook, and for some people divorce can help them become better, and through therapy, they can finally understand who they are, and what they want in life.

Having power and control over yourself gives you the freedom to develop what you need to create for yourself. Sometimes getting lost in the anger keeps you stuck in what the other person did or did not do for you, instead of what you need to do for yourself.

Happiness is a byproduct of you coming back to yourself. The way through the divorce is finding your sense of self, and the new possibility of yourself. Counseling can help walk you through the process, and keep you from the negative trap of divorce. Eventually, you will want to begin another relationship in which you can use what you have learned through us helping you, and have a better relationship with new rules and expectations.

Our ability to feel relaxed during divorce can be aided by the adoption of a healthy routine, getting plenty of sleep, a healthy diet, enough exercise and through techniques such as meditation that help reduce stress.

The therapists at Midwest Counseling can help you to work on establishing a good routine for yourself.

It can also help to talk to a therapist, because sometimes there can be an underlying reason for our lack of ease with the divorce.